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Faith-Based Documentary Makes Richmond Debut On Friday

Susan and Tina, one of the couples featured in "Coming Out, Coming In," married during filming.

Keith Martin and his fellowship team didn’t expect to win an Emmy. They didn’t make their film to win awards – they made it to provide a launching point for churches to create dialogue about faith and homosexuality. After the big win, his team’s documentary “Coming Out, Coming In” is finding its way to its intended audience.

The film makes its Richmond debut on Friday night at the Richmond Triangle Players‘ new theater at 1300 Altamont Avenue.

“We’re trying to give a voice to those that are marginalized so their stories can be heard and shared,” Martin says. “It’s kind of ironic that we didn’t set out to for an Emmy award. We spent such a long time, three years, trying to get it right.”

Martin, now Managing Director of the Richmond Ballet, started the documentary as a collaborative project of the Wildacres Leadership Initiative in North Carolina. He conceived and designed the project with four members of his fellowship. His group included four emerging leaders: Martin, two priests, and a lesbian businesswoman. They decided to focus on faith and homosexuality as an issue that affected the community as a whole.  Their solution was to create a film that could be shared in Sunday school’s across the country.  The production was financially supported in part by the Episcopal Church USA, which Martin proudly says gives the film the equivalent of a “Good Housekeeping” seal of approval.

Woven throughout the film’s three chapters on faith, identity, and belonging are clips from the 39 stories that Martin and his team collected. After round table discussions in North Carolina churches and visits to the local gay and lesbian community center, they narrowed the documentary’s focus on the stories of three distinct couples – a heterosexual married couple dealing with the husband coming out as a gay male, an interracial gay male couple, and a lesbian couple that gets married during the filming of the documentary.

“These are faithful people. There are some that are so disenfranchised that they left their church to find more welcoming organizations,” Martin says of some of those featured in the 30-minute film.

A suggested donation at Friday’s screening benefits the film’s growth and mission. Half of the donation is shared with hosting organization, the Richmond Triangle Players. For the screening, members of the local churches have been invited to take part in a panel discussion.

“This helps give a lens to put the documentary in context,” Martin says. “It gives the faith community an opportunity to answer difficult questions about the church’s take on homosexuality.”

Emmy aside, Martin says the meaningful conversations after the documentary are the true gauge of the film’s success.

“This is a beginning and not an end,” he says. “It’s the dedicated stories that will take people beyond faith.  This is about the faith of everyday people.”

For more information about “Coming Out, Coming In,” visit http://www.coming-out-coming-in.net. The film has two showings this Friday, March 12 at 7 p.m. and 9 p.m. at 1300 Altamont Avenue. A $10 donation is suggested.

Loving Equally On Valentine’s Day

LGBT couples meet Friday for an annual Valentine’s Day tradition.  At noon, couples and allies gather at the John Marshall Courts Building at 400 North 9th Street to in support of marriage equality by asking for marriage applications.  The rally kicks off a weekend of “Love Equality Style” sponsored by Metropolitan Community Church, First Unitarian Church, the Gay Community Center of Richmond, and People of Faith for Equality.

The GCCR hosts a dance on Saturday night from 8 p.m. – midnight that includes live music and a silent auction.  Tickets are $10 per person and are available at the GCCR prior to the event or at the door.

Performances by pop duo Jason & deMarco on Sunday, February 14 round off the weekend.  The couple highlights songs from their newest album “Safe” at MCC during worship at 10:45 a.m. and again at 4 p.m. in concert.

Open For Worship

The Cathedral of the Sacred Heart is one of sixteen congregations listed on GayChurch.org's directory.

When Luke Schlimme first moved to Richmond, his spiritual journey took him to GayChurch.org as he searched for a new house of worship. On the site, he found a listing of 16 local congregations self-identifying as gay friendly. When he visited several churches on the directory, he found not all were as open as the site led him to believe.

He connected with ROSMY last semester as an intern and took on a new project inspired by his own search. He sent out a letter to the pastor of each congregation listed on GayChurch.org in hopes of having conversations bridging the gap between sexuality and spiritually.

“The last thing I want to do is send the youth to a place that is supposed to be loving and caring and have them feel like outsiders,” he says.

After completing a year in seminary, Schlimme continues his duel-degree program pursuing a Masters of Social Work. He combines his academic and personal experience helping ROSMY build a curriculum to discuss spirituality with their youth. This starts with finding accepting places to worship.

“Being Christian and gay man myself, I’ve experienced the hardships you go through being a Christian and struggling with your sexuality,” Schlimme says.

He started his search at GayChurch.org. The churches listed on the website range in affiliation from Baptist to Quaker. Any church can be listed if they contact the site and identify as gay friendly.

“If they’re already saying ‘gay friendly,’ they need to step up and take this stance.” Schlimme says.

From the 16 congregations listed, he has met with nine.

According to Schlimme, there’s a spectrum regarding the openness of these congregations.

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A Time to Repent?

Reverand Mary Glass Pool

Rev. Mary Glasspool

Churches keep struggling with how much LGBT people can participate in their daily life and in their leadership.

The most recent positive development is the election of Rev. Mary Glasspool as Assistant Bishop of the Diocese of Los Angeles in the Episcopal Church. If her election is confirmed by a majority of other dioceses, she will be consecrated next May.

However, the Archbishop of Canterbury seems to be hoping that enough other dioceses of the Episcopal Church will reject her consecration so that the election will be null. In the Episcopal system, a local diocese elects its own bishops, but they can be rejected by the larger church. This very rarely happens.

To do so in this case would be shameful. I know Mary Glasspool. She is a fine priest, and has been one for almost 30 years. She is faithful, wise, and very intelligent.

We can be grateful that the Episcopal delegates in Los Angeles did not give in to the ecclesiastical extortion being practiced by the Archbishop and the other leaders of the Anglican Communion who are stuck on what they obviously think is the most important qualification for a bishop: who you sleep with.

I do not wish the Episcopal Church or the wider Anglican Communion of which it is part any more grief. Thus, I pray that those who stand in the way of the clear movement of the Holy Spirit will soon repent — as John the Baptizer urges all of us in these Advent days.

Robin-GorslineRev. Dr. Robin H. Gorsline is pastor at Metropolitan Community Church of Richmond.  He is also President of People of Faith for Equality in Virginia, an interfaith organization of gay and straight clergy and lay people working for equality for LGBT Virginians.  Read more of his thoughts on faith and spirituality on his personal blog.

Proud to Be One of God’s Queers


RevRobinIn celebration of Gay Pride Virginia on Saturday, GayRVA has asked some of our contributors to share their feelings on Pride.

I remember my first gay pride, Boston, 1983. I was a seminarian, still married (although separated) with three children, and battling a case of mononucleosis (at age 36!).

I could barely drag myself out of bed, but my lesbian friends told me I had to go. They were so right.

Marching down Tremont Street, feeling the pulse of the crowd, enjoying all the pretty boys leaning out of windows and peeking out of bars, I was thrilled to be one of the 15,000 chanting, “Out of the bars and into the streets!”

Pride Flag & Chairs

Before the march, some of us filled Arlington Street Church for worship. I don’t remember much, except singing songs proclaiming liberation and justice and celebrating the rainbow of God’s people. I wept. For joy.

I had come home.

Pride for me is the annual gathering of my tribe, the queer folks (including some delightful straight folks) who live out loud as we are created. It is so much better than those old family reunions where I had to pretend to be something I am not.

It is a big party, yes, but it also is intensely political. I am proud to claim my citizenship as a queer, and I want everyone to know it, and I insist that society respect my citizenship–and that of all my siblings–without qualification or restriction.

And Pride is a religious experience. I know God smiles on us, and wants us to be all we can be. Pride is like a giant church service and picnic and vigil and baptism and passion play all rolled into one. It is a reminder of how much God loves us and wants us to be ourselves–outrageously, gloriously L, G, B, and T, and Q, and I, and all the other letters of our alphabet.

It may seem sacriligeous to some, but I rank Pride somewhere up very close to Christmas and Easter, and definitely with 4th of July and Election Day–occasions when I am reminded who I am and who God calls me to be: one of God’s special tribe created in God’s queer image.

Rev. Dr. Robin H. Gorsline is pastor at Metropolitan Community Church of Richmond.  He is also President of People of Faith for Equality in Virginia, an interfaith organization of gay and straight clergy and lay people working for equality for LGBT Virginians.  Read more of his thoughts on faith and spirituality on his personal blog.

Photo by Eric Russell

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