Nightlife

First, let me start by saying that the gay bar scene has treated me exceptionally well and I have never had a job I enjoyed more.  The amount of people you meet, the crazy happenings, awe inspiring community events, and just the sheer fun of the scene makes it all worthwhile.  However, as you will read in this and future writings from me, there are certain customs to observe, boundaries not to push, lines not to cross, and rules to follow.

Lesson 1: Bar Etiquette

There is nothing that makes a bartender happier than seeing people walk through the door of their establishment, smiling and ready to have a good time.  Everyone knows exactly what he or she wants to drink, they say thank you, and tip accordingly… in an ideal situation.  This so rarely happens that it has almost become like sighting Big Foot or the Loch Ness Monster.

First and foremost, only approach the bar if you know what you want to drink.  There is no reason to be flagging down a bartender unless you know exactly what you want.  We are EXTREMELY busy, so when someone grabs our attention, and then the first thing out of their mouth is “uhhhhh” it detracts valuable time from us helping others, ensuring great customer service, and making tips.  Also, speaking of getting a bartenders attention, please do not tap your credit card, lean half your body over the bar, click your nails, snap fingers in our face, scream, or flutter your arms about in a monkey-like fashion.  A simple nod, wave of hand, or eye contact is more than enough to communicate you are ready for another beverage.

When ordering drinks for multiple people, please give your complete list and allow us to get them prepared.  Do not keep adding on shot-after-shot and drink-after-drink; we have other customers to attend to. As a rule we all have great memories for lists, and we can handle a large order.  Also when ordering for a group, decide on a shot together.  Ordering a Red Headed Slut, a Lemon Drop, a shot of Patron, an Undercurrent, a Mind Eraser, and whatever else you care to add to that list is so frustrating you are likely to be ignored the next time you come to the bar for a round.  Come together with your friends and compromise!

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