Monday, March 15, 2010 | Richmond, VA’s Webmagazine for GLBTQ

Bringing the White Knot to Richmond…

We’ve seen these on the red carpet and we’re bringing them to the RVA at some of our upcoming events.  From WhiteKnot.org

“White Knot for Equality’s mission is to work to achieve equal rights for the LGBT population by:

* educating people on the importance of Marriage Equality,

* engaging people in the conversations needed to change hearts and minds,

* and showing the wide-spread support Marriage Equality truly has.

We believe in peaceful and conscientious displays of support wherever there is injustice. We support the work of other organizations by providing a tool for visibility and awareness to complement their activities.

The White Knot symbol takes two traditional symbols of marriage—white and tying the knot—and combines them. It is at once a proud display of a belief in basic human rights and an invitation to conversation. White Knots are now being worn in all 50 states and in countries around the world.

White Knot for Equality offers the White Knot symbol royalty-free to any organization or individual advocating and working for Marriage Equality and other civil rights for LGBT people. White Knot for Equality does not necessarily endorse, support, or participate in the activities or views of any organization or individual using the White Knot symbol and all such activities and views are solely the responsibility of those organizations and individuals.

White Knot for Equality is a 501-c(3) non-profit corporation under California and Federal law and as such serves primarily to educate and inform. White Knot for Equality has no political affiliation.”

O’Reilly Wants To Marry Lenny…and Squiggy

Mayme Donohue
GayRVA.com

I’ve been saying gayness is a slippery slope for years! Once you give it a try, it’s nearly impossible to get yourself back on the Straight-town Express (I speak only from personal experience). I am referring of course, to expanding thinking about what love looks like and the kinds of ‘rules’ people think govern their romances and relationships. But Bill O’Reilly left me wondering…will the legalization of gay marriage mark the end of civilization as we know it…?!

O’Reilly brought up a solid point last night.If you allow gay marriage, how can you deny polygamous or polyamorous marriages? What about when a person wants to marry a turtle? or a goat?

click here to watch the video

click here to watch the video

Is gay marriage a slippery slope…? I’m not sure about that one. I believe that there is a big difference between two consenting adults willfully entering into a legal contract and a man walking into city hall with his goat on a rope looking to get hitched. But is there? Does this beautiful goat deserve her own white wedding?
Then what?! We’ll have to figure out how to regulate the relationships of all the little goat boys and girls running around?!

My question is, if gay marriage is in fact a slippery slope, and it opens the floodgates to all kinds of legally recognized love, what does the country stand to lose? Is there a terrifying mortal doom awaiting us all at the bottom of that slippery slope?

Or consider for a minute that the slippery slope is the best ride we’ve ever had as a country…?

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I’m not sure if gay marriage is a slippery slope. I’m not sure if polygamy is a good or bad thing. I’m not sure if that goat isn’t wishing and hoping for her day to walk down the aisle. But what I’m REALLY not sure about is, what is so bad about a slippery slope? What if it leads us to the promised land? What if we’re so afraid to cross over to the other side of the mountain and take a trip down the slippery slope, that we can’t even see the amazing progress and good that is hanging out on the other side?

And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people will get to the promised land. And I’m happy, tonight.

- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

He knew the slippery slope was exactly where the country needed to go.

Mayme Donohue is a Richmond native and Master’s Candidate in Political Management at George Washington University. She’s a rockstar and you can catch more of her thoughts and musings on gay politics and lesbian gossip at Maymes.

Victory in Vermont, D.C., Iowa, What's Next Virginia?

Wedding BandsYesterday, Roland Winston spent time making long-distance calls to Vermont.  He was calling delegates to round up support for what happened today.

In case you haven’t heard the news, Vermont’s state legislature, overrode the Governor’s veto for a two-thirds majority giving marriage equality to same-sex couples.   Also this afternoon, the DC Council voted to recognize gay marriages from other states pending approval of the mayor and Congress.  Equal rights advocacy groups like the Human Rights Campaigns and Equality Virginia, and grassroots efforts help keep the community’s voices in the forefront of lawmaker’s minds.

Winston is one of the organizers of Richmond’s Join The Impact group and is working on getting the community involved.   Join the Impact started late last year as a community organizing tool in cities around the country to engage individuals in getting same-sex marriages legalized.

“There’s the opportunity to move minds and bodies in Virginia,” Winston said.

Join the Impact started a few days after the election when a blogger posted on her personal site that something should be done about the passage of Prop 8 in California.  A friend recommended that they set up this site as a grassroots vehicle.  In four days, protests were setup for November 15 in over 50 cities including Richmond.

Other protests, like a candlelight vigil held at Charlottesville’s downtown mall in December, have drawn media attention as well.  This year, the group co-sponsored a Valentine’s Day gathering held annually by Metropolitan Community Church where same-sex couples go to city hall to apply for marriage certificates.  This year was the first the clerk offered to keep applications on file.

In Virginia, Winston said there is still a lot of work that needs to be done through volunteering.

“People need to be able to work the phones and be willing to put a face on the community,” he said.  “We need to get existing Democratic delagates to get reelected and gain six seats in the House to turn the Assembly blue.  It doesn’t mean we have the majority to pass it, but we would have Democratic support.”

For Virginia, the 2006 Marriage Amendment not only strictly defined marriage as a union between one man and one woman, prohibits the state from recognizing same-sex marriages from other states, but also rejected common law marriages.

A measure to repeal the amendment, Bill HJ657, was created by David Englin and presented in the state legislature, but was dissolved in committee.   Now, to strike the amendment, a resolution authorizing repeal must be put on the ballot and passed twice by two General Assembly’s separated by one General Assembly election with a new Assembly in place the second go-round.  Then, it must also win the ballot in the general election.  Winston hopes that grassroots efforts can make this impact.

“The events in California stirred anxiety and anger,” Winston said.  “With what’s happened in Vermont and Iowa, the fire can’t just go out.”

Find out more on Join The Impact via their Facebook group.  More information on repealing the 2006 Marriage Amendment is available on Facebook here.

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